Sunday, March 15, 2015

My journey along with my grandmom - We are together

Who is waiting the most for you to come? Who will always cuddle , hug, comfort you and never scold you? Who will tell you interesting stories, make you happy, learn you and give advices? Who loves you the most and spoils you? - Of course, grandmothers.

My relationship with my grandmother  is very warm, we communicate friendly, we never argue, with beloved person never want to argue without a reason. So over summertime I spend a lot of time with my grandmother. We work together and spend holiday together.

The days pass, I’m growing and asking and waiting for my grandmothers advice. When I was a child I liked to complete with her, while she used to give the best beauty tips to me , I still follow her tips and they are best tips one can ever get.
She is the best grandmom in this world ,  I still remember the head massage she used to give with her special hand made oil ,It is the biggest stress buster in the world, no matter how bad my day used to be but her warm hands full of blessings on my head and all my stress is gone.

I remember, when I used to take a nap, she came by my bed and covered me with warm blankets. I felt so good and calm I feel asleep in a moment.
My grandmother taught me how to separate different types of flowers, their names, tells me how to grow them, when to plant them inside and when – outdoors. When I went to my grandmothers place the time runs past really fast. Together we planted flowers, rooted them. Later I bought some flowers with me, and planted them at my home. Now I have a big flower garden at my place and I’m talking care of it, plant new flowers. 

I can boast that my grandmother is very hard working, like an ant she hurries everywhere. She does everything on her own, makes a meal, takes care of everyone. I think it’s good, but not in her age, she has to care about her health. For that reason I stretch to visit her that I could help her, that she could take a rest.

My grandmom never left the works for the last day, so I learned from her that everything should be done just in time.
And the best part about her was ,she likes knitting, her grandchildren never have their feet cold. I still wear sweaters made by her.

She even reads a lot I see her with a book in her hands very often. How she manages to do all these things: no one knows. She likes to dress nicely, to go out to town, and she manages to do all these things with a smile on her face.So I have the best grandmother, I couldn’t exchange her to anybody. Time spent with her is the best because it’s spent with the most beloved person.

It is always interesting to listen to my grandmother’s stories about exile. I am so glad that after all, my grandmother is very strength, she never gives up and she knows how to be glad about small things. I can always ask my grandmother for advice because she has a good life experience and she has a modern view about life. I think that from my grandmother I learned how to be strength and don’t give up in hard life situations, to look positive in everything and be glad about simple things.

I can sum up the whole post as My grandmom has always been a source of inspiration and always been there for me when ever I needed her.

A start to a new life - but strings attached

I have just recently moved out of my parent's home for the first time at a relatively late age. I've moved into a flatshare situation with a friend who I've known on-and-off for a few years. It all happened quite quickly to be honest. I'd been thinking about moving out for a while, but despite offers from other friends I was always a bit too scared to leave the nest. However, I decided to throw myself into the latest offer and now, about a month later, I'm now in my own flat. Trouble is, I now am having these horrible feelings that I've bitten off more than I can chew.

For starters I've moved into the city, whereas before I lived out in the suburbs. I thought that moving to the city would get me out of the house more, which I thought was the problem I was having by still being at home: I was just hanging about my bedroom a lot and not living life. However, I find it all quite intimidating and not least bit exciting. It's all quite a harsh environment. Also there was never any real concrete reason for me wanting to move, besides a vague feeling that I should because of my age. I suppose I thought it'd give me some more independence, but I pretty much had that living at home. If I wanted to learn to cook and clean more, I could have just done it at home.

I'll also admit that I miss my family quite a bit already. I keep popping by the house every so often to collect belongings, and everytime I go there I don't want to leave. I'm already having these feelings of wanting to just abort everything and move back, and just pay the rent on my flat for the lease I've signed so I don't leave my friend in the lurch. But let's face it: that's really not an option. I'd be mortally embarassed to do such a thing, especially at my age. So instead I've resigned myself to sticking it out, at least until the lease is up. However, this is giving me a horrible "trapped" feeling and I'm scared how I'm going to cope. Sometimes when I think about the situation I feel quite positive, but the reality strikes me when I come back to the flat and the feelings of dread come back. I just feel so far away from everything I used to have. I was quite close to my family, and lot of my life was part of the small town I lived in. I feel I've lost all that, and for what?

Is it natural to have these feelings? Do they fade overtime or am I too much into living at "home" that I'll never break away from it? I sometimes wish I'd moved out, but not so far away - like maybe rented a small flat in the same town. I've got a car and it's not much to drive back home, but even then I still feel so far away and isolated.
Leaving the nest, whenever you do it, takes some adjusting for some people. What are the reasons for such strong attachments to home?

I know for me, mine were a very strong closeness with my family. It was hard for me to leave them from an emotional standpoint, because I was afraid we wouldn't be as close anymore in the same way. When I realized that we are, and that it actually strengthened our relationship in many ways (made our time together count, versus taking it for granted and sometimes wasting it), I stopped feeling so homesick.
But for a long while, every time I went home, I felt like you do...not wanting to leave, wishing I were still there. Many people don't identify with this, but they don't have the same relationship with their families that I do. So no matter were you go strings are always attached, even though we move back to our family the attachment which we have in our new life will also be so strong that we cannot get easily detached from it. Every home has its own story to tell.

P.S - This is a fictional post

Home - The ultimate place to find optimism

People, generally, are not born with either an Optimistic or Pessimistic view of the world. It is learned behavior - learned  through experience.
But being optimistic is not easy, that too when you had bad experience with life.
So where are we gonna go to search or find that optimism or positivity?
The answer is there is no better place than home to get the positive vibes.
Seeing your parents smile can make your day and fill you with the optimism and inner happiness
No matter how bad my day was at office when I reach home and mom gives a cup of hot tea and keeps her  hand on my head ,all the tension and that bad day feeling fades away.
Home is a place where I get all my positive inner strength.
Those lazy moments on Sundays and that hand made food by mom.
We never realize these small moments worth unless until we are away from home and  something bad happens at that time we miss that optimistic vibe of home.
Those mornings with sunlight from the window falling on your face. That breakfast gossips -Have we ever realize how much positive impact these small things make in our life.
Be grateful for what you got.
What you want is something out there in the future. But it is also important to view what you have in the right way to keep an optimistic viewpoint.
So appreciate the little and big things in life you have instead of focusing too much on what you don’t have.
Ask yourself: what can I be grateful for in my life right now?
When I ask myself that question I often come up with simple answers such as the roof over my head, the delicious food on my table, having the opportunity to sleep in and the people closest to me.
Be grateful to be alive. Be grateful to be here. I enjoy every season of the year.
Be it summer ,winters or rains.  And I’m grateful to be here to see that happen.
And to see this world still spinning around. I hope I never took things for granted before
§   Spend a few minutes in the morning on thinking about what you want and your goals. This sends you off to highly motivated and focused day.
§  Spend a few minutes being grateful for what you got. This sets you up for a positive mood throughout the day.
§  Exercise. This will help you release inner tensions and worry and fill the space they occupied within you with new energy

Why to search for happiness or optimism outside in the world while we can find it all inside our home too.
Life is good because it’s an incredible opportunity that you’re given -- and it’s a miracle -- and it’s an incredible opportunity that you have to turn it into whatever you want to turn it into.  And make what you can out of it.

P.S - This is a fictional post

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