Friday, August 3, 2012

A try to solve an epic question of this world

This entry has won the runner up prize in indiblogger love marriage ya arrange marriage contest :D :D 


I still don't believe that i am writing on such a topic :P actually the thing is I was an anti marriage material :P.
I  never believed in marriage ,I used to hate the word marriage , I used to think after marriage there is no life ,in fact your life is finished after it , but then at a point of my life someone made me realize how beautiful is to be in a commitment named marriage, that pleasure in changing yourself for somebody else and experiencing that sweet feeling when some one changes for you too  ,then i came to realize that it was not marriage which i used to hate rather  it was my commitment fear ,but now my point of view  is totally changed ,anyways that's some other track ,lets come back to the topic.
Is love marriage better or arranged?
 (image courtesy- google)
Actually its an epic question and I don't think any one can find the answer for it ,like still there is no answer for who came first -the hen or the egg :P well actually i don't believe in proving that is love better or arranged because every term have its pros and cons .
It really doesn't matter whether your marriage is love or arranged , what matters is how faithful you are to your commitment , whether you are giving your 100% to your relationship or not, and if you are then nothing can stop you to make your marriage stay life long. Love or Arranged doesn't matter because at some point of time your arranged marriage needs love like Love marriage to carry it forward and Love marriage needs adjustments like arrange marriage to keep their car named marriage move smoothly on the track.
I really believe in saying  Marriages are made in heaven and so you can't choose whether your marriage would be a love marriage or arranged marriage ,so don't say this is better or that is better just believe what ever it would be it would be the best :)because you never know what time brings in front of you . Ppl say in arrange marriage it takes time to understand each other but also in love marriage that time is taken even if it is before marriage but obviously you don't know the  person exactly first then too you go for a relationship ,try to understand each other ,try to change for each other ,be in love  -same thing is with arrange marriage the only thing here is without knowing a person you go for a actual relationship but now a days even arrange marriage couples take time know each other and then get married.some people say arrange marriages don't work out then what would you say about our parents  - i mean in their generation normally there were very few love marriages most of our parents would have an arranged marriage but aren't they still living happily together  ,but then you will say in love before marriage  if things don't work out we can break up  ,then even in arrange marriage you get a solution of divorce ,but is it actually a solution? No Divorce is not a solution nor break up is, you need to try to keep things moving ,try to give your 100%in your relationship , give your life to your relationship and then see how things work out - breakups and divorces are not solution -its actually running away from problems,running away from relationship.Love v/s arranged is nothing if you are ready to play your part and keep loving your partner and respect people related to him /her whole heartedly :) :)
But i really think this sony tv show Love marriage ya Arrange marriage gonna help us to draw a better conclusion :)

P.S - this is an official entry for Indiblogger contest Love ya arrange marriage







8 comments:

Saurabh Chawla said...

nice post :) all the best :) Here have a look at this one whenever you get time ......

http://saurabhchawla2345.blogspot.com/2012/08/its-all-written-up-there.html

vinisha said...

@saurabh .....thanksss alottt .....and ya sure as soon as i spare some time ill read it :) :)

jaish_vats said...

Good Luck Vinisha...A small suggestion if its okay :) ....I feel the current font is a little difficult to read :)May be you could try something else? :)

vinisha said...

thankzz jaish .....and ufcourse ill change it to times new roman ......suggestions are alwayzz welcomed :D :)

ES said...

Love marriage is better because during divorce, the blame will be put on the girl and the boy, which is correct. But in arranged marriage, the blame will be put on parents, which is not entirely right.

vinisha said...

@ES - no that's not right if during divorce anyone is putting blame on their parents coz of arranged marriage ,parents always try to find best person for your life but if the marriage din't worked out its not the parents who are responsible, it is solely your and your partner's responsibility only ,i don't know why ppl blame their parents for it ,i think those who blame don't have guts to accept their mistakes and failure of their marriage i know its sad but it no where justifies you or gives you right to blame your parents

Saru Singhal said...

Congrats dear on winning :)

vinisha said...

thankzzzzzzzzzzzzz a ton mam .,....... and a big congrats to you to for getting the first prizeeeeeeeeeeee :D :D